1. Good eye contact.

1. 良好的眼神接触

Eye contact is your primary tool for establishing nonverbal connections with others. It communicates your level of involvement, interest and warmth. When speaking to others, ideally look directly into their eyes at least two to three seconds before looking away or moving to the next person. Merely glancing at someone for one second or less is known as eye dart and conveys insecurity, anxiety or evasion.The next time you’re in a meeting or giving a speech, ask a friend to count how long you look at specific individuals and if you visually engage with everyone in the room.

眼神接触是你与其他人建立非语言联系的主要工具。眼神接触传达了你的参与、兴趣和热情程度。当你和其他人说话的时候，理想情况是直接看着对方的眼睛至少2到3秒才将眼神移开或者移至其他人。只花一秒钟或者更少的时间瞅一下对方，这叫做‘飞瞥’，传达的是一种不安、焦虑或者逃避的情绪。下一次当你开会或者做演讲的时候，让一位朋友统计你和某些特定人物眼神接触的时间，以及你是否与房间里的所有人有眼神接触。